Do you ever have those moments where you get completely and totally frustrated with your spouse? You get angry and later on you realize it was because of something really trivial or silly. We all have those moments when we get frustrated with our spouses. Here are 5 easy ways you can prevent frustration with your spouse and minimize the silly fights.
Share Your Schedule
One of the best ways to eliminate frustration with your spouse is to share your schedules. It doesn’t really matter how you do it as long as you do. The more you share your schedules, the better you will understand what your spouse has going on. This does not mean you have to have every small detail of each other’s schedule, nor do you need to know their daily schedule while you are both at work. I started posting my family’s weekly schedule on the refrigerator and it has made a world of difference for us.
Make Meal Plans
Let me preface this by saying I hate meal planning, putting together meals and cooking. I noticed that the nights my husband and I were home together we always got frustrated with each other trying to decide what cook for dinner. Even if you hate meal planning just the act of writing down your dinner plan for the evening will eliminate frustration. You can always change the plan, but having a meal list written down will eliminate reduce arguments. I write out my meal list for the week in my planner and I post it on our weekly family calendar.
Replenish What You Use
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There is nothing more frustrating when you are a busy parent than finding out that you don’t have items you need in a diaper bag, to make a meal, or around the house. This is often caused by your own spouse and there is nothing more frustrating than that. It can be the cause of some the stupidest fights. So if you use up items around the house replenish it or put it on the shopping list. My husband and I share our shopping lists on Wunderlist. If you prefer pen and paper lists, I have found these All Out Of notepads to be super helpful for planning grocery lists.
Put Stuff Back
This is another frustration for spouses. If you use an item in your house put it back where it belongs. It sounds so simple, but we get distracted or act lazy and we just don’t put stuff back where it belongs. We all know how frustrating it can be when you can’t find an item that is supposed to be in a particular spot.
Know Your Spouse’s 3 Things
If you have read the book The 5 Love Languages you may have read about doing acts of service for your spouse. One of the ways to help understand your spouse is to know what 3 items they would like to see done each day. It could be as simple as putting dishes away. The easiest to find out is to talk to your spouse and find out what their 3 things are. Find out what 3 things your spouse would most appreciate having done each when they come home and do those first.
My husband and I have implemented all of these ideas and it has made a huge difference for us. We get far less frustrated with each other than we used to. I really believe it has improved our marriage and made our time together better. What tricks do you use to keep from feeling frustrated with your spouse? Share in the comments.
Haylee Huston says
I love this post! Often times the simple things we could sort out with better communication end up causing arguments. I also find myself getting crabby when we come home from work, there is no meal plan,neither of us wants to cook, etc. (Especially when I have expected someone else to start dinner without actually telling them!) Thanks for the easy tips!
Beth Baker says
I’m so glad you liked it. Bryan and I have had to work at this. Especially since we have to split shift parent at times due to schedules. If you would be interested, I can email you copies of the calendars I print and use on our fridge. I’ll also be writing a post about my favorite recipe app soon!